Every person has a reason for being on this earth. I’d like to think I have a few, and here’s one in particular.
After a conversation with Bethany about the issue I touched on in my last post — the disappearance and fragmentation of friendships that happens all too frequently after some friends get married and others stay single — I decided that one of the reasons I was put on this earth was to campaign for “single’s rights.”
I’m not sure if this means that I’ll be marching around shouting “Think of the singles!” (Rather than the rallying cry of “Think of the children!”) and carrying signs that say “Singles are people, too!” and “We were all single once!” but perhaps I will.
1. Raise “awareness” of the problem
2. Not being treated like second-class citizens simply because we have not snagged a spouse or engaged in reproduction
3. (Related to #2) Not being treated with automatic pity because of said situation
4. The rights and the opportunities to participate in community and be just as engaged in peoples’ lives as couples are (This means a two-way street where singles and marrieds must reach out to each other and put forth some amount of effort to stay in touch and make time for each other)
5. Breaking assumptions and stereotypes of being single. These vary widely and may include: being desperate for a man/woman, being single because he/she is not trying hard enough, living in a mad and crazy whirl of casual relationships and nightly parties because there’s no spouse/kids to go home to, or having no life because he/she is just sitting around waiting for that special someone
6. Changing attitudes to recognize that singles can also be valued, contributing members of society, whether we stay single or not
Now, as to achieving these goals, I don’t know. Please share ideas; that’s what the comments section is for. But if F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote about it 86 years ago, and we’re still dealing with it today, then it must be a wider-reaching problem than acknowledged.
Will anyone help out? WHO’S WITH ME?
SINGLES OF THE WORLD, UNITE. YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE BUT YOUR CHAINS OF SOUL-CRUSHING LONELINESS AND DESPERATION EVERYONE ASSUMES YOU CARRY.